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2. Facebook group for finding foreigners to learn the language.
Very friendly group on Facebook to communicate with foreigners, with over 20,000 members, many foreigners. Join can be found at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/learningrussian/
3. Community of foreigners "Learning Russian with Russians" those who want to learn Russian together with real Russians.
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In most English-speaking countries, talking about "nothing" is normal and even necessary in certain situations. Light, unobtrusive conversation on random topics “breaks the ice” in communication or fills awkward silence between people.
Even though you may feel insecure and embarrassed about your English skills, you cannot remain impenetrably silent. Just as it is certain time When small talk is appropriate, there are also certain topics that people often discuss during these times. The hardest part of this non-committal communication is knowing how to start the conversation. Review the list of conversation starters and practice them with a friend. Remember, in an English-speaking environment, it is often better to make a few mistakes than to say nothing at all!
- WHO fills the time with talking?
People use small talk in many different ways. The most common type is those who don't know each other at all. Although we often teach children not to talk to strangers, adults, as a matter of politeness, will say at least a few words in certain situations. This is also common with people who have just met, such as friends of your friends. Another type of person who has to constantly maintain a polite conversation on abstract topics is office employees, who may not be good friends, but work in the same department. Sales managers, waitresses, hairdressers and receptionists often try to “talk” customers.
- WHAT are people talking about?
There are certain "safe" topics that people tend to chat about. The weather is obviously the number one topic that people who don't know each other calmly discuss. Sometimes even friends and family members discuss the weather when they meet or start a conversation. Another topic that is particularly safe is current events. As long as you are not trying to discuss a controversial political issue, it is usually safe to discuss the news. Sports news is a very common topic, especially if a local team or player is in a competition or playoff and scores a big win or suffers an embarrassing defeat. News about the world of show business, gossip about celebrities can also become great topic in a certain setting. If you and your interlocutor have something in common, or you find yourself in the same situation, you can talk about it. For example, if the bus is extremely full and there is no free seats, you could talk about the reasons why this happens. Likewise, people in an office may casually discuss new design corporate stickers. There are also some things that are not considered acceptable in conversation. Discussing personal information, such as salary or recent divorce, is unacceptable between people who do not know each other well. Compliments regarding clothing or hair are acceptable; however, you should never say anything (good or bad) about a person's body. Negative comments about another person not involved in the conversation are also unacceptable: when you don't know a person well, you can't be sure who their friends really are. You don't talk about personal problems either because you don't know if you can trust another person with your secrets or personal information. Additionally, it is not safe to touch on topics that society considers controversial, such as religion or politics. Finally, it is unwise to continue talking about an issue that the other person is unhappy with or has no interest in.
- WHERE do people talk?
People communicate almost everywhere, but there are certain places where it is very common. Most often, “small talk” occurs in places where people are waiting for something. For example, you might be communicating with another person who is waiting for a bus that is due to arrive any minute, or with a person waiting to board a plane. People also chat in the dentist's waiting room or in line at the grocery store. In offices, people communicate in elevators, cafeterias, and even in toilets, especially if there is a line. Some events (parties, presentations) also require that all guests who do not know each other very well join in on small talk. For example, you might talk to someone you don't know over a cup of punch or by the pool. In English this is called “mingling” - “mingling”, “involvement”, when people are in a public environment and communicate with many people.
- WHEN do people talk?
The most common time for a small talk is when you see or meet someone for the first time that day. For example, if you see a colleague at the gym, you can say hello and discuss sports or the weather. However, the next time you see each other, it’s enough to just smile and say nothing. If there is a pause in the conversation, or communication has faded away, this is definitely the right time to start a casual conversation. If someone is reading a book or typing a message at a bus stop, it is not very appropriate to start a conversation. Other good time to talk - a break during a meeting or a pause in a presentation when nothing important is happening. Finally, it is important to recognize the signal when the other person wants the conversation to pause.
- WHY do people talk?
There are several different reasons why people chat. The first and most obvious is the need to break the awkward silence. Another reason, however, is to pass the time. This is why “small talk” is so common, when you are waiting for something. Some people communicate to be polite. You may not feel like chatting with every guest at a party, but just sitting in a corner by yourself is rude. After someone introduces you to other people but you don't know anything about them, you should start with small talk to show polite interest in them and to get to know them better.
- Phrases to start a conversation
| Talking about the weather |
Beautiful day, isn't it? Can you believe all of this rain we"ve been having? It looks like it's going to snow. It sure would be nice to be in Hawaii right about now. I hear they"re calling for thunderstorms all weekend. We couldn't ask for a nicer day, could we? How about this weather? Did you order this sunshine? |
| Talk about current events |
Did you catch the news today? Did you hear about that fire on Fourth St? What do you think about this transit strike? I read in the paper today that the Sears Mall is closing. I heard on the radio today that they are finally going to start building the new bridge. How about those Reds? Do you think they"re going to win tonight? |
| In the office |
Looking forward to the weekend? Have you worked here long? I can"t believe how busy/quiet we are today, can you? Has it been a long week? You look like you could use a cup of coffee. What do you think of the new computers? |
| At the party |
So, how do you know Justin? Have you tried the cabbage rolls that Sandy made? Are you enjoying yourself? It looks like you could use another drink. Pretty nice place, huh? I love your dress. Can I ask where you got it? |
| On a walk |
How old's your baby? What's your puppy's name? The tulips are sure beautiful at this time of year, aren't they? How do you like the new park? Nice day to be outside, isn't it? |
| Waiting somewhere |
I didn't think it would be so busy today. You look like you"ve got your hands full (with children or goods). The bus must be running late today. It looks like we are going to be here a while, huh? I"ll have to remember not to come here on Mondays. How long have you been waiting? |
Instructions
If you speak a foreign language fluently and communicate by correspondence with old acquaintances, then there is nothing to advise you other than how not to get carried away, spending all your free and not so free time on correspondence. It is much more important to be attentive and careful when corresponding with unfamiliar foreigners on social networks or dating sites. It’s not that there are “enemies and spies all around,” but there have been plenty of dashing people at all times, especially since on the Internet, wherever you spit, there are Rockefellers and Angelina Jolie all around, anonymity and arbitrary editing of user profiles favors all sorts of frauds. So, caution comes first. You do not need to send any personal data, real physical or compromising photographs to your interlocutor. The same applies to discussions of personal status, be it health or financial situation: let the interlocutor first of all see you as a person, and it won’t hurt you to reveal yourself as a person, and not as a set of statuses.
Nevertheless, goodwill and unostentatious openness will not be superfluous at all. Russia, despite popular stereotypes with bears, gypsies and samovars, is notorious for its inhospitability. Correspondence with foreign acquaintances and friends - good way break these clichés. First of all, be polite and correct. Do not attribute malice to things where everything is explained by poor acquaintance with our country and people. Don't overuse emoticons. Better try to convey your emotional reaction with the right words.
It is better to make conversations on general topics more specific, so it will be easier for both of you to establish contact, but without going too deep into them. Weather, art, specific humor, politics are easy to illustrate, but it is not always worth immediately showing your attitude to a particular subject of conversation. You may love hurricanes and want to talk about it, but the interested interlocutor suddenly turns out to be an anemophobe! Or he adheres to liberal democratic views, while you are a staunch monarchist. Show interest in the worldview of your interlocutor, find out about his preferences, and provide an opportunity to talk about himself. The more complete the picture, the easier it will be for you to navigate and build a dialogue.
If you use automatic translators when corresponding, do not forget that they are all too imperfect for full communication, especially if you do not speak a foreign language well and are unable to make adjustments to it yourself. In this case, write in the simplest and shortest sentences so that the software algorithms do not get confused in cases and phrases. If you have weak or average knowledge of a foreign language, still try to compose letters and messages yourself, giving preference not to automatic translators, but to dictionaries.
Always remember the difference in cultural background and mentality. The friendliest foreigner may not understand and even be offended by some indirect quotes from Soviet comedies that are familiar to us. For the phrase, which is quite ordinary for the Russian ear, “I WORKED LIKE A NIGRER TODAY AND TIRED AS HELL! - "I worked like a black man today, and got tired as hell!" in some regions of the United States you can get a fine or even be sent to correctional community service. Something like “I’m not a coward, but I’m afraid” or “Ay-lyu-lyu later” will look just as ridiculous in the eyes of the interlocutor. Even the most advanced automatic translator (and the likelihood that your counterpart will also use them is high) will not be able to take into account the context you specify.
Slowly is a unique service for finding pen pals. The authors of the application deliberately refused instant messages to bring back the romance of communication through letters. You find someone with similar interests, write him a message in a few paragraphs, attach a stamp and send it. Delivery time depends on how far the recipient is from you - it can be a couple of hours or a day. You can also send photographs, but their number is limited, and the delivery speed also depends on the distance.
A social network for communicating with foreigners and daily lessons on various topics. To become a member of the community, you need to transfer $5 monthly to the project account. But there is also a seven-day free subscription for beginners. The site has chat rooms, forums and blogs for communication in the chosen language.
Convenient service and application for teaching a foreign language. To use it, you only need a device with a camera and the Internet. Here you can find both professional teachers and native speakers offering informal tutoring. Each user can be both a student and a teacher. More than 10 thousand tutors are available, and tuition is paid by the hour.
A resource for finding friends, pen pals, and even travel companions for traveling around the world. You can select interlocutors in specific countries, communicate on forums, chat or via private messages. The site is free and has tens of thousands of registered users from all over the world.
On this site you can find a partner for face-to-face or remote communication through personal messages or chats. When searching, you should indicate the language you want to learn and the one you will teach your interlocutor, as well as what applications you would like to use.
More than 100 thousand people from 56 countries use Easy Language Exchange to find interlocutors who speak different languages. You can communicate with the community in a public forum or only with selected people via private messages. In addition, this resource contains many self-paced courses.
7. Speaky
Speaky is free social network, consisting of only two elements: a list of profiles and a chat window. When filling out your profile, you choose which languages you know and which ones you would like to learn, and the service itself selects the best candidates. You can communicate with both native speakers and those who are just learning it.
A site for finding conversation partners from the American Dickinson College. The Mixxer is aimed primarily at communicating via Skype, but also allows you to simply chat. A useful bonus is free audio lessons on learning different languages from consulates and leading universities.
9. Language Share
Simple and convenient service to find interlocutors. Profiles are filtered by native and target languages, gender and age. You can send messages to people you like: the service sends notifications by email. If you wish, you have the right to look for a partner only in a certain country.
10. Tongue Out
An ambitious project, reminiscent of Facebook in the late 2000s in design and structure. There are not only profiles, but also forums, groups, collections of photos and videos. You can add users as friends, participate in discussions and write messages, including through the application.
11. Tandem
Stylish mobile service to find native speakers. Finding someone to talk to here is as easy as shelling pears: Tandem is used by millions of people. You can even enlist the help of professional teachers and sign up for a private lesson. Training takes place both through chat and through audio and video calls.
12. HelloTalk
HelloTalk is a multifunctional application for learning languages and communicating with native speakers. In chat you can exchange not only text messages, but also audio recordings, photographs and videos. There is also the opportunity to visually correct the interlocutor’s mistakes in correspondence.
13. HiNative
HiNative is a question and answer platform. You ask native speakers questions about their language, and they answer. You can also request feedback about your pronunciation and sentence construction. Owners of free accounts can listen to and see answers only to their own questions, and those who purchased the premium version can also see answers to questions from other users.
Today, more and more Russian women meet foreigners in the hope of arranging their destiny and breaking out of Russia. In many ways, dating sites help girls with this, where they can meet and chat with foreign men. The site system is quite simple, you just need to register on the site, after which you can either write to the men you like or respond to their letters.
Many girls believe that one registration is enough for the whole relationship to work out. In this case, correspondence is not given much importance; it is believed that it will work out by itself. In fact, no matter how surprising it may sound, you also need to be able to correspond. Otherwise, all your communication may end after the first 4-5 letters, or even after the first letter. Texting is more complex than real communication. When communicating live, you see facial expressions, gestures, and the person’s reaction to your words. Something can be explained, noticed if you accidentally offended. When you write letters, you lose all this. And waiting for days for an answer, you wonder if he’s offended or just busy.
Of course, it is impossible to foresee absolutely all cases, but at least you can avoid the most common mistakes that girls make when corresponding. I will tell you in this article how to do this and how to conduct correspondence so that it has every chance of developing into a real meeting.
Where does the correspondence begin?
After you have selected several profiles that interest you, you need to start the conversation somewhere. Typically, you have two options: write them a message or send, wink, or otherwise let the person know that you are interested in them. If you compare these two methods, then the best thing, of course, is to write a message in which you let the man know that you are interested in him, ask him some questions, and give him a short presentation of yourself. I assure you that of two equally attractive women, the man is most likely to respond to the one who wrote him a message, and not just winked.
As for the first message, you should not limit yourself to the words “Hi, you have beautiful photos" or “Would you like to get to know me." Such messages come in batches and are quite banal, and therefore become boring. You need to stand out and interest, then your chances will be much higher. By the way, no matter how emotional you are, don’t get carried away big amount question marks and exclamation marks. When you read such a letter, you get the feeling that the person is either too young or simply not serious. But not every man will want to start a correspondence, much less a relationship with such a person.
Separately, I would like to mention messages with hints of an intimate nature. Many women think that since all men want sex, a hint of it in the first message can spur the development of a relationship. I hasten to dissuade you of this. The hint, of course, will spur you on, but it’s unlikely that the relationship will be what you expected. It is unlikely that many men who want to find a life partner and spouse will choose the one who starts talking about sex without knowing the person, so to speak, with the first person they meet. The attitude in this case will be appropriate.
How to talk without losing the correspondence
Finally, you were able to choose an interlocutor to your liking and wrote to him. And the first message from him has already arrived. How to continue the conversation so that none of you loses the desire to communicate? I'll tell you main advice, maybe banal, but nonetheless effective. We need to maintain and stir up interest in ourselves. Of course, this is much easier to advise than to implement. But it's still real. To begin with, don’t post everything about yourself at once. Remember that a woman must have a mystery. And if in 2-3 letters you tell everything about yourself, from infancy to this day, then not a trace will remain of the notorious mystery. But you shouldn’t take this advice too seriously and remain silent in response to all your interlocutor’s questions. Use a rough outline of your letter as a rule. First, a greeting, then briefly about what happened to you in recent days, then you answer his questions and ask your own, and at the end you talk a little about your past. Don't get carried away with stories about your ex-love and an unhappy life. In general, correspondence should contain as little negative information as possible. You should radiate joy and optimism.
Any man loves to talk about himself, so if you ask him questions and take an interest in his life and affairs, then the chances of winning his heart are very high. But, as I already said, everything should be in moderation. You should not arrange a one-sided interrogation, but you need to remember everything that he tells you. In particular, in order to subsequently ask how this or that event ended and how he spent his vacation or business trip. Such obvious interest is flattering and the man understands that you carefully read everything he writes to you.
Do not significantly exaggerate your advantages and capabilities. If you hate cooking or knitting, then there is no need to tell all your friends about your culinary talents and the fact that you knitted sweaters. Be yourself. You wouldn't be happy about the fact of deception. For example, if a man were telling you how much of a homebody he is, or vice versa, how well he plays golf, and when you meet you, you would find out that he doesn’t know which way to approach the drill, and he’s only seen golf on TV. You must slowly form in his mind your image, which he puts together from your stories about yourself, reactions to certain words. Oddly enough, men love living women, with their strengths and weaknesses, and not some kind of ideal. Everything is explained by the fact that you need to live up to the ideal, and it’s easier to build relationships and a family with a simple woman.
If you start a correspondence with someone, try to respond more often. This does not mean that now you have to spend all your time at the computer, waiting for messages. No. It is enough to check at least once every hour or two hours to see if a message has arrived. It’s just that if the break between your letters is more than a day, especially at the very beginning of the correspondence, then the chances that someone else will not pick it up are very low. There is a lot of competition on dating sites, and if you have already found interesting person, then your task is to make sure that he pays maximum attention to you. Try not to bore or whine by saying that he writes to you so rarely. It is better to throw all your efforts into making the correspondence more active.
In general, when communicating with a man, rely on your intuition. If something tells you that there is no need to rush things and discuss some topic yet, then tell him that you are not ready to talk about it. I assure you, the man will understand and appreciate it.
Remember that all messages must be sincere, come from the heart and soul, then it will really be interesting to communicate with you.
